Long Distance Relationship

People often say that long distance relationship won't work or last long. But is that true? Well honestly I feel that it takes mutual respect, trust, commitment, and love in order to survive a long distance relationship. What do I mean by long distance relationship? In this case, it means that either one of you has to go overseas to further your studies or your job is posted somewhere else.

Xiufeng and I had a small talk just now. She was telling me about her friend who will be going to America for her internship. Then I told her that is a very good opportunity to be able to go overseas while you are still schooling. She even said that her friend might be offered a job there. Xiufeng was telling me that if you are in a relationship it will be difficult. That's when she asked me this, "Would you go overseas to further your studies or migrate there and leave your boyfriend?" For a moment, I was thinking that such question never came across my mind. So I told her that even a 3-day camp, I already missed my house, my bed, my family and everything else I own. Haha. Then she said that I didn't answer her question directly. I told her that I won't leave him. I know myself and I couldn't bear to leave anyone just like that. I will get home sick because it happened to me once and I never want to experience it again.

I'm also afraid of going overseas on my own without anyone I know of. And I bet that my parents won't allow that. Ok maybe my dad would, but still they would be worrying about my safety and everything. Xiufeng said that she would leave everything behind if she's given the opportunity because it's her dream to pursue her studies overseas. She mentioned that even though you are in a relationship, this would be a test to see both are really meant for each other. If it is, both parties would still be in contact and faithful to each other.

But I just feel that it would be difficult especially the time difference. It's not easy to call each other. Furthermore, it's expensive to make overseas call. Even with the best technology, internet, it would be different. You can't talk to that person verbally unless you have microphone or webcam then maybe it might work.

I think this is up to individual. It's their own future. No one can make that decision. But it's best to compromise I guess. Try to talk things out and make a wise decision. I should be glad that I don't have to go overseas =) Singapore is where I belong. LOL.